01/06/2006

"Weddings are supposed to be traditional, and even gay folks sometimes feel that it just won't be a wedding without a mess of hidebound, archaic, vestigial rituals left over from the days when women were bartered like chattel. These couples will want to replicate the Big Traditional Wedding as closely as you can do it without a minister, a cathedral, or his-n-hers rings. On the one hand, this makes things easier for you because it's closer to what you're familiar with. On the other, it creates its own problems. For instance, if you tell the usher 'I'm with the bride's family,' this won't help her much. Then there is the question of whether to have a matched set of attendants as is traditional or just split the 10 groomsmen up, 5 on each side."
~The Plaid Adder, "The Fine Art Of Being Come Out To: A Straight Person's Guide To Gay Etiquette"